14 Secrets Lawyers Will Never Tell You (2023)

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    14 Secrets Lawyers Will Never Tell You (1)Lauren CahnUpdated: Nov. 27, 2022

      Got a dispute? A divorce? A potentially lucrative deal? Read these insider tips before you think about calling a lawyer.


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      When should you hire a lawyer?

      When disputes arise, a person’s first inclination is often to call a lawyer, attorney Randolph Rice tells Reader’s Digest. But there are many situations in which hiring a lawyer is the last thing you should do. Says Rice, ideally, everyone would resolve disputes without lawyering up. “Getting lawyers involved can escalate tensions and delay resolution, all at great time and expense.” Take it from an attorney—before hiring one, consider if there are other ways to resolve your dispute. Maybe start by checking out these hilarious lawyer jokes.


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      Before hiring a lawyer

      “When you have a dispute with someone, the first thing a lawyer does is send a demand letter hoping to resolve the dispute,” explains attorney, Russell D. Knight. On reading a demand letter, the other person will often say, “this isn’t worth the trouble” and they quickly settle. But here’s a secret from Knight: You don’t need a lawyer to write a demand letter. You can do it yourself. Just make it look as formal as possible, and you may find your dispute goes away—no charge to you.

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      How to tell a good lawyer from a bad lawyer

      It’s not as hard as you might think, according to attorneyRandall M. Kessler, author of Divorce: Protect Yourself, Your Kids and Your Future. “Shop around and trust your instincts,” he advises. “Does the lawyer listen to you? Do they explain things in a way you can understand? And are they willing to discuss fees and costs? The person you hire will need to be someone you trust and believe in, so be sure you feel very good about them from the start.”


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      What others think about your lawyer matters

      Check your potential lawyer’s reputation. “Many cases are won, and lost, on the reputations of the lawyers involved,” attorney Rice tells Reader’s Digest. “In the courtroom, if your lawyer has an outstanding reputation, the judge may give your case some deference, for example.” Outside the courtroom, your lawyer’s reputation could color the way the attorneys on the other side respond to requests for information and offers to negotiate.


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      “See you in court” is a bit misleading

      In choosing your attorney and your plan of action in resolving a dispute, it’s important to consider that despite what you see on television, most cases never see the inside of a courtroom. Typically, they’re settled outside the courtroom because of the time and expense involved, according to attorneyDarren Heitner, author of How to Play the Game: What Every Sports Attorney Needs to Know.

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      In fact, a lawyer should try to stay out of court

      “In my experience, a good lawyer always finds every opportunity to keep a case from being decided by a judge, and only relents on trying a case before the bench when all alternatives have been exhausted,” attorney, Jason Cruz says. “If a lawyer suggests they want to try the case in front of a judge, you should definitely speak with another lawyer before proceeding,”



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      Be honest, expect honesty

      It’s imperative that both the lawyer and the client approach one another with complete honesty, attorneyPaul Edelstein, tells Reader’s Digest. “Winning cases can be lost because of a client who lies or exaggerates just as easily as because of a lawyer who tells the client what the client wants to hear instead of what is true.” So when dealing with attorneys, don’t just look for honesty—be honest.


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      Be prepared for your meetings

      “If you want to improve your chances of securing the best lawyer to take your case, you need to prepare before you meet them,” advises attorney Stephen Babcock. “Get your story, facts, and proof together well before your first meeting.” This not only ensures that you understand your own needs, but it helps a good lawyer to ascertain whether he or she can actually help you. “We want the best clients too. Proving you’re organized and reliable helps us.”


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      Make sure you’re not seeking a brain surgeon for a foot injury

      “Many people assume that any lawyer can handle any problem,” attorney Jory Lange points out to Reader’s Digest. But like doctors, lawyers have specialties, and that’s where their talents and experience lie. “When you choose a lawyer, make sure they have experience with your type of case,” Lange advises.

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      Don’t hire an “attack dog” as your divorce attorney

      When choosing whom to hire, not only should your lawyer’s practice specialty come into play, but so should your lawyer’s personal style, points out Lara Bazelon, Associate Professor of Law and director of the Criminal Juvenile Justice and Racial Justice Clinical Programs at the University of San Francisco School of Law. For example, most divorces can be handled using online forms and mediation, she explains. If you involve “lawyers prone to adversarial stances,” things will get much uglier—and much more expensive.

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      The fuzzy side to billable hours

      Many lawyers charge “per hour,” but when it comes to billable hours, an hour isn’t always an hour, Robinson points out. What if you talk to your lawyer on the phone for 30 seconds? Will your lawyer bill you for a full hour? A 15-minute segment? Or something closer to 30 seconds? These are the questions you should be asking, says Robinson, because it can make a huge difference in your bill.


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      Expenses add up

      When hiring an attorney, a potential money pit is “expenses” outside of the lawyer’s billable hours. Expenses include everything—copying and faxing costs, hiring expert witnesses, and even traveling via private jet, points out attorney Justin C. Roberts. Some lawyers don’t just pass the charges along; instead, they charge an additional percentage fee. Whatever their method, you need to know it up front so there won’t be any surprises when the bill arrives.


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      Think twice about “good deals”

      “Be wary of lawyers who quote low fees—noticeably lower than the standard—in order to get your business,” advises attorney Nathaniel Pitoniak. “Consumers should use their instincts about the work ethic, honesty, and relevant experience of a lawyer instead of making their decision on percentage points. If a lawyer’s fee sounds too good to be true, it’s likely because they struggle to retain business or don’t anticipate putting much effort towards your case—both are bad for someone who needs a strong lawyer.”


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      Insurance denials are appealable

      If you feel helpless when faced with an insurance denial, please know that you might be able to appeal with the help of a qualified lawyer, says David Himelfarb, attorney. Insurance companies routinely deny long-term disability claims, for example, particularly because it’s assumed that most people don’t have access to reputable attorneys to challenge the denial. “This is where intricate knowledge of the legal and insurance process, as well as the right team of experts to prove the claim, can reverse the odds.”

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      Originally Published: November 20, 2018

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      Lauren Cahn

      Lauren Cahn is a New York–based writer whose work has appeared regularly on Reader's Digest and in a variety of other publications since 2008. She covers life and style, popular culture, law, religion, health, fitness, yoga, entertaining and entertainment. Lauren is also an author of crime fiction, and her first full-length manuscript, "The Trust Game," was short-listed for the 2017 CLUE Award for emerging talent in the genre of suspense fiction.

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      Are lawyers allowed to tell your secrets? ›

      lawyer-client relationship of trust and prevents a lawyer from revealing the client's information even when not subjected to such compulsion. Thus, a lawyer may not reveal such information except with the informed consent* of the client or as authorized or required by the State Bar Act, these rules, or other law.

      What not to tell the attorney? ›

      Top 5 things you should never tell your lawyer
      • My case will be easy money for you. ...
      • I have already done the work for you. ...
      • I forgot I had an appointment. ...
      • I've already talked to a lot of other lawyers. ...
      • I don't have all my documents.
      Apr 19, 2022

      Do lawyers have to keep everything a secret? ›

      The attorney-client privilege protects only communications, not facts. Clients cannot hide facts by telling them to their lawyers. What is privileged is the content of the communications between the clients and their lawyers. What clients say or write to their lawyers is privileged.

      Can you sue someone for telling your secret? ›

      Your reputation, career, and home life could be in peril when someone spreads false and damaging information about you or your business. However, nobody has the right to ruin your reputation carelessly or maliciously. If you have been the victim of slander and incurred damages as a result, you could sue for defamation.

      Can a lawyer purposely lose a case? ›

      Lawyers are also required not to mislead the court, which means the lawyer would then have to contact the judge and/or opposing lawyer and give the case up immediately. It wouldn't be ethical to argue the case as if hoping to win while intending to lose.

      What is the most common complaint against lawyers? ›

      The most common disciplinary complaints filed against lawyers are for:
      • Neglect.
      • Lack of communication.
      • Misrepresentation/Dishonesty.
      • Scope of representation.
      • Fee disputes/Excessive fees.
      Mar 7, 2022

      Can a lawyer go against their clients wishes? ›

      When an attorney ignores their client's wishes, this is considered legal malpractice in many cases. For example, when an attorney ignores their client's wishes and decides to settle their client's claim without their permission, this is considered legal malpractice.

      What is unethical attorney? ›

      It refers to an attorney who aggressively and unscrupulously pursues accident victims. Directly soliciting accident victims or having a legal assistant or other employee do so is widely considered unethical because the injured person is in a vulnerable state. Attorneys should not have to come to you to gain business.

      How do you impress a judge in court? ›

      6 Tips to Make a Good First Impression in Court
      1. Know the judge.
      2. Be organized with your paperwork.
      3. Dress Appropriately.
      4. Stay calm in front of the jury.
      5. Keep eye contact with the jury.
      6. Don't be late to court.

      Can your words be used against you in court? ›

      The following is the standard Miranda warning: "You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law. You have the right to speak to an attorney, and to have an attorney present during any questioning.

      What colors are best to wear to court? ›

      The best colors to wear to court are conservative colors (e.g., white, light or dark gray, navy, dark blue, etc.) and avoid bright and loud colors. Make sure the color of your belt matches the color of your dress shoes.

      Why do lawyers object to everything? ›

      The primary reason an attorney makes an objection is to preserve his right to appeal if he loses the case.

      Do lawyers lie to help their clients? ›

      A new Rule of Professional Conduct applicable to California lawyers says that while representing a client, a lawyer shall not knowingly make a false statement of material fact or law to a third person. Rule 4.1 is aimed at lawyers communicating with opposing counsel or an opposing party.

      Do lawyers read everything? ›

      Tip #1: Read EVERYTHING

      Lawyers are some of the few people left on earth who actually do read everything put in front of them. And for good reason: once executed, you will be held to every single word in that legal document you just signed.

      Can I sue someone for gossiping about me? ›

      If someone makes false statements against you and damages your career, personal life, and public reputation, you have the legal right to file a slander lawsuit.

      Can you sue someone for spreading lies about you? ›

      A slander lawsuit is a lawsuit you can file after someone defames you. Defamation occurs when someone makes a false statement of fact to a third party and causes you harm as a result. Defamation is a tort, which means it is a civil wrong, so you can file suit to obtain monetary damages from the person who committed it.

      Can you sue someone for being deceitful? ›

      If you have been defrauded or deceived by an unscrupulous professional or business, you should know your rights under federal and state law. You may be able to bring a civil claim for damages in addition to reporting the matter to the appropriate government agency for investigation.

      Can a lawyer represent someone they know personally? ›

      Often because they know me and trust me, or they trust someone who knows me and recommends me. Some people are hesitant knowing our personal relationship or that I overlap in community circles with them and/or their spouse. In short, we can represent people we know personally, and I'm not hesitant to represent them.

      What is the most common reason for an attorney to be disciplined? ›

      Professional misconduct is the most common reason for attorney discipline. Lawyers can also be disciplined for conduct in their personal lives.

      Why are some lawyers aggressive? ›

      The personality type that makes certain people aggressive often does not align with a more thoughtful and careful personality type. Lawyers who are very aggressive are so confident in their position that they do not study potential opposing arguments and evidence closely to prepare themselves for the opposition.

      Do lawyers text their clients? ›

      While texting isn't appropriate in every situation, lawyers should text their clients when they can. It all comes down to serving clients in the best way possible for them: Today's clients expect convenience. Texting is already part of our daily lives and it's the preferred method of interaction for many people.

      What is an example of a judge's conflict of interest? ›

      Some of the most common examples of a conflict of interest that would lead an assigned judge to recuse themselves voluntarily include situations in which: They have a familial relationship to one of the attorneys involved in the case. They have a possible financial interest in the result of the case.

      Do defendants tell their lawyers the truth? ›

      A client should always feel comfortable telling their attorney the whole truth of the matter for which they are being represented. Any communications that take place with the purpose of securing assistance in a legal proceeding, legal services, or securing a legal opinion are protected.

      What is the word for a corrupt lawyer? ›

      shyster. noununscrupulous lawyer; swindler.

      What are examples of unethical behavior by an attorney? ›

      Attorney misconduct may include: conflict of interest, overbilling, refusing to represent a client for political or professional motives, false or misleading statements, knowingly accepting worthless lawsuits, hiding evidence, abandoning a client, failing to disclose all relevant facts, arguing a position while ...

      Can lawyers be deceitful? ›

      Share: Everyone knows that lawyers are not allowed to lie — to clients, courts or third parties. But once you get beyond deliberate false statements, the scope of the obligations to truth and integrity become less clear.

      How do you win a judge's favor? ›

      Present Your Case: How to Get the Judge to Rule in Your Favor
      1. Pay Attention to Other Trials. If you want a positive ruling from the judge, then it can help immensely to pay attention to different trials that are going on. ...
      2. Hold Other People in High Esteem. ...
      3. Express Yourself in a Clear Way. ...
      4. Take Your Time Answering Questions.
      Jan 2, 2019

      What words to use when talking to a judge? ›

      The first rule of speaking to a judge in court is always to address them properly as “Your Honor.” This title does not apply to any other presiding officials who are not, in fact, judges. If you are unsure how to address a court official, use the same language that lawyers and others in the courtroom are using.

      How do judges decide who is telling the truth? ›

      The judge wil often look to other evidence and witnesses to decide which party is telling the truth. If you have a case that involves domestic violence, having evidence to present that corroborates your version of the events can be especially important.

      Can you cuss at a judge? ›

      Criminal contempt is an action that impugns the integrity of the court or brings the court into disrepute. For example, yelling curse words at a judge would be direct criminal contempt of court.

      What is the exclusionary rule? ›

      The exclusionary rule prevents the government from using most evidence gathered in violation of the United States Constitution. The decision in Mapp v. Ohio established that the exclusionary rule applies to evidence gained from an unreasonable search or seizure in violation of the Fourth Amendment.

      Can you be forced to swear in court? ›

      So if they refuse to swear to tell the truth, they're not in compliance with the subpoena.” If you're not in compliance with the subpoena, you can be held in contempt of court or, in the case of the Jan. 6 hearings, of Congress. And if you are held in contempt, potential consequences include some jail time.

      How do you look trustworthy in court? ›

      3 Ways To Come Across As A Credible Witness
      1. Dress the part. If possible, you should dress in business attire for your court appearance. ...
      2. Make eye contact with the Judge and Opposing Counsel. ...
      3. Answer the questions directly.

      What do you wear to win in court? ›

      Dress conservatively and in a respectful manner. Men should have a tucked-in button-down shirt, belt, closed-toe dress shoes, and dark-colored socks. Women should wear slacks and a dress shirt or a skirt and a dress shirt. Don't be too revealing, sexy, or inappropriately dressed.

      What colors do judges like to see? ›

      The best color to wear to court is probably navy blue or dark gray. These colors suggest seriousness. At the same time, they do not come with the negative connotations that are often associated with the color black (for instance, some people associate black with evil, coldness, and darkness).

      What is the best evidence rule? ›

      The best evidence rule is a legal principle that holds an original copy of a document as superior evidence. The rule specifies that secondary evidence, such as a copy or facsimile, will be not admissible if an original document exists and can be obtained.

      What does badgering mean in law? ›

      Primary tabs. Badgering the witness is an objection that counsel can make during a cross-examination of a witness where opposing counsel becomes hostile or asks argumentative questions.

      Why do lawyers drag things out? ›

      Your lawyer may deliberately delay a settlement in order to procure evidence that can increase the value of the case. That evidence can show the extent of your losses or who was responsible for the accident.

      What happens if a lawyer finds out his client is lying? ›

      When a lawyer has actual knowledge that a client has committed perjury or submitted false evidence, the lawyer's first duty is to remonstrate with the client in an effort to convince the client to voluntarily correct the perjured testimony or false evidence.

      What do lawyers say in court when they don't agree? ›

      Objection. Objection to the form, your Honor. Objection, your Honor, leading.

      What are the four responsibilities of lawyers? ›

      • Advise and represent clients in courts, before government agencies, and in private legal matters.
      • Communicate with their clients, colleagues, judges, and others involved in the case.
      • Conduct research and analysis of legal problems.
      • Interpret laws, rulings, and regulations for individuals and businesses.
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      What is the 4 corners rule in law? ›

      The four corners rule contract law, also known as the patrol evidence rule, stipulates that if two parties enter into a written agreement, they cannot use oral or implied agreements in court to contradict the terms of the written agreement. The term "four corners" refers to the four corners of a document.

      What is the Four Corners rule in law? ›

      “Four corners of an instrument” is the principle that a document's meaning should be derived from the document itself, i.e., from its language and all matters encompassed in it.

      Are you supposed to be completely honest with your lawyer? ›

      Essentially, this privilege prevents your lawyer from discussing the details of your case with others. For this reason, you should feel comfortable telling your lawyer the truth, as they are required to keep all information having to do with your representation between the two of you.

      What are the rules of confidentiality? ›

      In law, confidentiality is a legal term that refers to the duty of an individual to refrain from sharing confidential information with others without the express consent of the other party.

      What happens if privileged information is voluntarily disclosed to a third party? ›

      The privilege shields from discovery advice given by the attorney to the client as well as communications from the client to the attorney. Voluntary disclosure of privileged communications to a third party results in waiver of the attorney-client privilege unless an exception applies.

      What are the exceptions to the duty of confidentiality? ›

      Most of the mandatory exceptions to confidentiality are well known and understood. They include reporting child, elder and dependent adult abuse, and the so-called "duty to protect." However, there are other, lesserknown exceptions also required by law.

      What is the difference between confidentiality and attorney-client privilege? ›

      Attorney-client privilege is about the communications between the attorney and the client, whereas attorney-client confidentiality is about case information obtained in the course of representing the client. All privileged information is confidential, but not all confidential information is privileged.

      What are the 3 limits of confidentiality? ›

      Potential Limits of Confidentiality
      • Limits Imposed Voluntarily (i.e., Not Legally Required) ...
      • Limits That Can Be Imposed by Law (i.e., Possible “Involuntary” Disclosures) ...
      • Possible Limitations on Confidentiality Created by Use of Technology in the Setting.

      What is considered a violation of confidentiality? ›

      A breach of confidentiality, or violation of confidentiality, is the unauthorized disclosure of confidential information. It may happen in writing, orally, or during an informal meeting between the parties.

      What violates confidentiality? ›

      A breach of confidentiality happens when data or information that was provided in confidence is disclosed to a third party without the owner's consent.

      What type of information Cannot be kept confidential by the attorney-client privilege? ›

      The privilege extends only to communications that the client intends to be confidential. Communications made in non-private settings, or in the presence of third persons unnecessary to accomplish the purpose for which the attorney was consulted, are not confidential and are not protected by the privilege.

      How do you lose attorney-client privilege? ›

      If you share the communication with a third party – for example, by forwarding an email to someone outside of your business – you can lose the protection of attorney-client privilege.

      What does confidential information will not be disclosed? ›

      A non-disclosure agreement (NDA) is a legally binding contract that establishes a confidential relationship. The party or parties signing the agreement agree that sensitive information they may obtain will not be made available to any others.

      When can confidentiality be breached? ›

      Murder, manslaughter, rape, treason, kidnapping, child abuse or other cases where individuals have suffered serious harm may all warrant breaching confidentiality.

      What are the 5 exceptions to the non disclosure requirements? ›

      Exceptions to an NDA
      • a. When the information is public knowledge: ...
      • b. When the recipient receives information from a third party. ...
      • c. When the information is required to be disclosed by any lawful authority. ...
      • d. The information is known to the recipient before signing the NDA (non-disclosure agreement)
      Sep 28, 2022

      What is the fiduciary duty of confidentiality? ›

      Duty of Confidentiality

      A fiduciary must maintain the confidentiality of all information relating to the beneficiary. They must not use any form of it, whether written or spoken, for their personal gain.

      What overrides attorney-client privilege? ›

      Some of the most common exceptions to the privilege include: Death of a Client. The privilege may be breached upon the death of a testator-client if litigation ensues between the decedent's heirs, legatees or other parties claiming under the deceased client. Fiduciary Duty.

      What is the attorney-client privilege a rule of? ›

      The attorney-client privilege is, strictly speaking, a rule of evidence. It prevents lawyers from testifying about, and from being forced to testify about, their clients' statements. Independent of that privilege, lawyers also owe their clients a duty of confidentiality.

      Are emails between attorney and client privileged? ›

      The attorney-client privilege is a type of privileged communication that is recognized by law and protects certain confidential communications between a lawyer and a client from being included in a discovery process.


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